The Unwarranted Opinion
I’ll be the first to admit that I have a few pet peeves… I low-key (high-key af) don’t like typos. I can’t stand when people don’t use common sense. Also, I absolutely hate when people choose to remain ignorant. However, one of my biggest pet peeves is when someone decides to make a comment along the lines of “You know, you look so much better without makeup“.
Not only have I gotten this comment from men who believe that their opinion is completely warranted, but I’ve also gotten the same unnecessary and undesired feedback from women as well. Let me say this: everyone is entitled to their opinion. However, when your opinion is a claim most likely based on your misunderstanding of why someone is doing something, take a second or two to consider what you’re about to say before speaking it aloud.
Especially, when it has the tendency to come off as a backwards ass compliment.PIN IT!
What’s The Issue?
The statement “You look better without makeup” inherently deduces that anyone wearing makeup is doing so to alter their appearance for the better. I get it. You think the person’s natural beauty is just enough, if not better than the makeup altered one. However, by assuming this you miss out on one important point: not everyone who wears makeup does so because of some conscious, or subconscious, desire to appear better looking. Some of us are artists. Some of us are just having fun and experimenting. And, some of us aren’t exactly trying to pick up a man with our perfectly blended bronzer or fleeky brows.
Honestly, it continues to surprise me how many people are bothered by the fact that someone can love to wear makeup. We continue to constantly reduce the beauty industry to a shallow and heavily stigmatized niche. So, it’s easy enough for strangers to make assumptions about why someone chooses to wear makeup. However, as I’ve said: makeup is more than just a way to alter your appearance. For some the simple act of sitting down and doing their makeup serves as a way to escape, a way to express their artistic views or simply a desire to release unwanted stress.PIN IT!
Worry About Your Own Face
The existence of the “Take Her Swimming on the First Date” challenge and the #NoMakeup hashtag serve to remind us that we still hold inherent stigmas against anything that appears unnatural. When the things we post on social media are essentially illusions, altered “realities”, I think it’s interesting that we continue to shame makeup the way that we do. Whether you’re wearing makeup because you’re breaking out and you want to cover it up for a little, or you’re itching to see how a green smokey eye would look on you, do you boo boo! It’s YOUR face.
Did someone ever give you the “You look better without makeup” comment? What was your reaction to it? Let me know down below!